I think that being an eyesore is one of the ultimate determining factors of my personality. Every day, the media flaunts the beautiful people, the 85 pound supermodels who are just looking at me from those make-up commercials saying "I'm prettier than you." I have an incredibly low self-esteem. The only attribute I have is my intelligence, which I sometimes fear is slipping away as I become progressively less motivated....

But anyway... sometimes I look at myself in the mirror and think "how do I live with this face? How can other people stand looking at me?" I'm often afraid of making eye contact with anyone, because if they're looking at me, I get self-conscious. I can't even speak, who wants the opinions of an ugly girl like me?

I hate to sound so superficial. But I know it's true, and it's hard to live with. The only person who ever dared to contradict my self-perception was someone online. "You're not that ugly, although I can't really tell because it's a small picture. I'd rate you a 7/8 out of 10." Okay, well, great. It's a step up, I guess. Who doesn't love being a number?

It's not just my face, it's my weight, too. Binge eating is addictive. I do it almost every day. I'm suprised I'm not fatter than I am. I almost give up caring sometimes, and just eat and eat, whether or not I fear gaining weight. After all, if I'm already ugly, why would it matter if I'm thin? A thin, ugly girl is no more appealing than a fat, ugly girl. It's like asking "Would you like to drink some household cleaner that corrodes your esophagus as an appetizer to your rat poison, or what?" (Great analogy, I know.)

Why do I have to be so preoccupied with my ugliness? It's not like I can do a damn thing about it, except complain... Why do we have to value people based on their looks? (How many ugly, popular people do you know?) Why do I value people based on their looks, even though I wish people would not do the same to me? I'm trying to stop, I'm trying to not see people in terms of "ugly" and "pretty" anymore, because while I can't do anything about anyone else, I can at least try to change myself... and I guess that includes not looking at myself so intolerantly either... but re-programming your mind is hard, ya know?

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